Tuesday, April 17, 2012

Being in a long-distance relationship – taught me how to manage life

I have to do everything by myself, basically everything. Again, my mindset had helped me a lot. Somehow the phrase ‘kene manage’ that really annoyed my officemates and I really have it reason. Hohoho…

Since I’d passed the days with hiccups, some flying colors n sometimes not, I guess I should jot it down so that it can become my lesson learnt n will refer to this if I’m gonna face such situation in future, again.

Managing chores

I hire a housekeeper twice a week to handle the laundry n the cleanliness of the house but I do need to manage the chores in between the housekeeping days also preparing kids’ school bags daily. Some improvements were done, systematically, I hope
1. I’d prepared their bags b4 going to bed, so that no more rushing very early in the morning.
2. Go to bed b4 9 so that the kids had a good sleep and wake up by 7 so that I have no problem waking them up, forcing them to shower n the good thing is, no tantrum :)

Ilham rindu atuk, so he brought along the double decker that atuk bought for him to sleep

3. Just use 1 bottle each per nite means I have made sure all bottles are washed by the middle of the nite, after they’d finished their milk. Previously, I tend to delay in washing the bottles n washed all the bottles at 1 go. But somehow, its not good as I’m piling up the dishes n it’s a lot easier when we wash the bottles straight away, no stubborn dirts :) With that, I don’t hav to wash all the bottles every morning.

It’s very simple and basic, I know but somehow, I tend to take the simple action for granted.

Managing kids’ activities

The kids are sooo used to outside activities i.e playgrounds, malls, car ride etc. but to do all that alone with a baby in the tummy really needs energy, courage and right mindset. It takes a lot of courage just to bring them out, even to play at our own lawn. So, most of the time, I took them out when I want to reward them whenever they behave. Mostly on weekends, after behaving well throughout the weekdays but that still subject to my level of readiness and tiredness n the weather as well.

Making themselves occupied in the house.

Picnic at our porch

Playing at our lawn

To the beach only when we hav other company

Managing meals
Basically I prepared a simple meal that suits all of us. Well, mainly them.

On weekdays, I prepared their meals once we reached home. Nasi goreng, French toast, sandwich, cucur roti, cucur nasi, fried mee, home made mushroom soup (not from the can) or anything simple. Well, kids don’t eat heavy meals nway.

On weekends, I prepared meals as early as 9 n had our meals by 11. N that meal was prepared in a medium quantity so that we can hav it for our early dinner as well. ;p With that routine, I just spent less time in the kitchen n more time with kids and for myelf. Among the menus were nasi lemak, nasi ayam, spaghetti, porridge, or any sort of pasta. Oh, we ate pasta at least once a week. The kids just lurve having that instead of rice n made my life easier! ;p

If the kids still hungry, they can munch the biscuits or cereals.

Pasta, cereals, porridge, cakes were among our cuisines

Managing stress and tiredness
Handling chores can be stressfull, but somehow, I’d passed that. Wink2. The key is to not to procrastinate. N thank to my housekeeper or else, my life will be more haywire, especially looking at the laundry and filthy floor.

Handling 3 kids and a baby in the tummy really tiring especially on weekends but actually, I hav a lot time to rest. I had my rest whenever they asleep.

Alhamdulillah, my morning sickness is not that bad, perhaps I was just too occupied with the routine n I don’t hav the time to think about the morning sickness.

Managing tantrums

It was ok in the beginning. The kids were ok but towards the end, the kids tend show their tantrums especially Ilham. N I hav to admit that it was very tough. He just did anything to get attention. He pushed Iffah, pinched Iman, hit me, water spitting, making a mess, u name it. Although Iman was very helpful but she can easily be upset as well if I didn’t really pay attention to her or scolded her for reasons.

Penalty for making a mess.

N how to manage that, I just need to manage my anger, I guess. Scolding them too often will not help at all.

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E`n1x said...

wait - ur expecting #4? homaigod.
congrats =P.
and salute lah how u handle everything, with 3 kids to boot. i feel like pulling out my hair with only two kids. maid's leaving this weekend so less free time for me after this.
do update periodically on how to keep ur sanity!
tc! xoxo

schazzy said...

they go to bed @ 9pm??? woweee!!! tell me how u do it??? the earliest my kids go to bed is @ 10.30, which jaaaarang sgt berlaku, only happens on days yg drg bersiar2 sampai penat. hehehe. usually drg go to bed between 11-12... by the time they fall asleep, i pun dah ngantuk giler to do anything else..

eeja said...

Strong mummy;) tq for sharing. Kusyuk i baca this entry, hehe. And I agree, we should learn to manage our own anger; although this is among the toughest job.

im_an_ibu said...

Lily n shaz,

It was ok sbb i was just in the 1st trimester. Perut xbesar n xberat mane. But i guess i'll surrender now if Alham needs to go there again. Cepat penat lately. Huhuhu.


Yerp, tu yg plg susah actually. Kene byk bersabar n take it positively.


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